Drunk on Apple Wine – At Sea – [12/01/2015]

girlsuitcaseHey, maybe I’ll dye my hair
maybe I’ll move somewhere
Maybe I’ll hit the bars
Maybe I’ll count the stars until the dawn
Me I will move on

Maybe I’ll dye my hair
Maybe I’ll move somewhere
Maybe I’ll clear my junk
Maybe I’ll just get drunk on apple wine

~ Hard Candy Christmas

When I walked up my very first gangway what feels like a terribly long time ago; everyone told me: you will know when it’s time.

At the time, I laughed. I thought – like everyone who walks up a gangway most likely – that that time would never come. Why would you leave? Why would you want to?

They say every job comes with an expiration date. I didn’t think that would prove to be true about ships, but circumstances change, times change, more importantly people change.

I changed.

The contract following my next one will be my last.

The gypsy is going to park her caravan, unpack her suitcase, and put down roots.

The decision to leave the fleet in just over a year was a surprisingly easy one. A year is two more contracts, it’s the end of my student loan – which is always when I was planning on looking into other options – and well, it’s time. It’s perhaps past time, before I start feeling like Bilbo Baggins after he had been too long on the road: all stretched out, like butter spread over too much bread.

If I stay here much longer, I run the risk of never leaving, and that’s not the kind of thing that I want to happen to me. This is not – nor has it ever been – what I want to do with the rest of my life. I have come to the startling realization that for the first time in a very long time, the sea, or at least this particular aspect of the sea, can no longer offer me what I want or need out of life. I no longer wake in the mornings cheerful and looking forward to my day, rather I drag myself through it, and that’s not a good thing for anyone; least of all the people I am paid to serve.

I have been offered the chance to see incredible things, I will always treasure those opportunities, the people I’ve met, loved, laughed with and cried with, my shipboard families are what I’m sure I will miss the most. But I have a real family, now more so than ever. And I am no longer willing to separate myself from them for such long periods of time. I am ready – beyond ready – for a job where the hours end, where weekends aren’t just another ignored day on the calendar, and where holidays can not only be planned in advance but relied on. I am ready for a life that is not constantly in flux, not constantly dictated by the tides and someone else’s contract dates.

It’s time.

There’s a reason, of course, that I am not doing this right away. It would be foolish to walk away without first doing at least some research, while I have two dayjobs at home that will carry me while I search for my next adventure, I cannot go from full throttle to full brake. There are plans to make, and some of those are mental. Leaving ships is not just a matter of retiring from a job; it’s a complete shift in lifestyle, a change in mentality that takes time to adjust to. It’s not something you jump into.

For those of you shaking your head and wondering at what I’m eventually going to be giving up, allow me to elaborate:

Yes, I will be saying goodbye to a lot of things; no more day trips to Hong Kong Disneyland, Universal Singapore, or dozens of other places. No more waking up in the morning and trying to remember if I’m in Istanbul or Greece. But I have been lucky enough to go to all those places, I have seen and done so much in the last five and a half years…

By the time I leave? It will have been nearly seven years of incredible things; days where I woke up and walked the great wall of china, waded in rivers in Alaska, ate fresh smoked salmon, watched rainbows form over the bow, sipped champagne at the end of a world voyage, got a crick in my neck from looking up at the Big Buddha of Lampoon, wept at Cinderella’s castle in Hong Kong and Toyko, played with the sting rays in Bora Bora.

I was given Barcelona for my birthday.

…and Honolulu.

…and Lima.

I’ve lain on my back on the bow and counted the stars, I’ve gasped in wonder at the Northern lights and tilted my face up to the chill Alaskan rain. I’ve seen the salmon run in the old red light district of Ketchikan, played countless games of pool in local pubs, walked the paw prints of White Fang and taken the White Pass Railway along dead horse trail of the long gone sourdoughs. I’ve fed husky puppies, seen penguins and trundled along on the back of an elephant. I’ve seen cheetahs stretching in the lazily hot African sun and hunted for Lemurs with my camera in the jungles of Madagascar. I’ve eaten kangaroo, rattlesnake and emu. I’ve listened to the silent wonder of a natural underground cathedral. I’ve trudged through the Canadian snow to see local performances that no other in the world could compare to, I’ve eaten Prince Edward Island’s famous ice cream and been introduced to Anne of Green Gables. I’ve wept at the tomb of the Arizona. I’ve asked Eva Peron’s blessing and I’ve stood in the immense shadow of the pyramids, the sphinx and the temple of Luxor. I’ve snorkeled over the Great Barrier Reef, jumped off the Auckland sky tower, sat three rows from the front at the Sydney Opera House production of Madama Butterfly, and stared at the horizon from the mast of an Australian tall ship. I’ve para-sailed over the Mexican coast, and walked barefoot in the crystal sand of Hawaii sipping drinks with umbrellas in them.

I’ve even paddled a dugout canoe.

I’ve met celebrities, dined with internationally known musicians, sung solos, sorted music, hosted formal dinners, danced at formal balls, and worn more costumes than I can count. I’ve danced through migraines, pain that had me limping, and exhaustion that threatened to knock me flat, and I’ve done it with a legitimate smile on my face.

I fell in love, out of love and then dizzily back in love again. I lived out here to the fullest extent that it was possible. I gave this everything I had. Those are years I would trade for nothing, moments of glory and pleasure and the kind of things that most people never get the chance to see in a dozen lifetimes let alone one…

And that is not even half of it…

And there will be more, in the time yet to come.

So why am I leaving? Why on earth would I leave that all behind?

Because of the other side of the coin, the side that is so seldom discussed, that no-one sees but the people closest to me, and sometimes not even them…

Because it has also been five years of not having a place to truly put down roots, five years of feeling the connections to my home and my ‘normal’ life slowly fraying at the edges, of returning to Victoria and finding that I have no one to call and don’t remember what street leads where or what bus to get on. Of feeling totally adrift, to the point where you don’t even know where ‘home’ is anymore, because there are pieces of yourself scattered so far and wide that you’re hard pressed to keep them all linked together. You can’t catch all the threads before they fray and are lost to the water forever.

Five years of working up to 12 hours a day seven days a week and coming home so tired that I can’t see straight or think straight only to get up in the morning and do it all over again. Seasons of being ripped apart by people who have problems I can’t fix but have to attempt to because they expect someone to and I’m the one who’s there. Of extra duties that come unexpectedly and the expectation that you will of course never say no, and if you do, you run the risk of not being seen as a team player. Of pressure that builds up to the point of boiling with no release valve, and expectations sometimes so high that they are impossible to live up to. Of restless sleep and emotional meltdowns that never saw the light beyond my cabin door. Years of feeling like a second class citizen because you’re not a paying passenger, of forced smiles as often as genuine and packed down emotions that have sometimes come dangerously close to exploding. Five years of work ‘days’ that are six months long and a job that never seems to be finished no matter how much of yourself you give to it, of never having time or energy for a social life, and if you do chose to make one for yourself risking sacrificing what little sleep you can get in exchange. Because of IPM drama, inter-departmental politics, irrational levels of stress and countless other small things that go on behind the curtain that add up to waking up one day and finding you aren’t that fond of the woman in the mirror. When little things that should require nothing more than a shrug and a smile to fix erupt into world war three, it’s not a good sign.

Becoming snappy and irritable and impatient, gaining circles under your eyes that look more like bruises, and a general distaste for the human race that verges on loathing.

That’s not where I want to be. More importantly, that’s not where I want to stay.

For years now, the whole world has been my home…

And I’m finding now? That I’m aching for a home that’s a little more specific than that…

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Merciless – At Sea, Cape Horn – [11/30/2015]

rough-seas-1When the announcement bell rings at 9:15 in the evening, it’s rarely heralding good news. In this case, it was news that wasn’t precisely unexpected as the ship had been corkscrewing like well…a cork…for the last hour and a half.

Cape Horn, despite the fact that we rounded it in the early hours of this morning, is still living up to its reputation.

The Captain announced that the sea height had risen earlier than expected (we had expected not to hit the rougher weather until much later in the evening) putting us now in the face of 5 – 7 foot swells (that’s waves that are as tall as me at their lowest point), and gale force winds coming from the worst possible direction; causing the ship to corkscrew instead of just yawing or pitching. It’s doing both at once, and if a door is loose or a drawer doesn’t lock it will open and close on it’s own under the motion of the ship.

Fortunately we don’t have a cast show tonight, so there’s no worries about the dancers getting injured.

No matter what, we are always at the mercy of Mother Nature out here, and it seems that at the moment she is not in the greatest of moods.

There’s no danger of course, the ship is built to take weather like this and worse, but it doesn’t mean it’s particularly comfortable.

The ship gets very quiet in weather like this ,most of the guests head to their cabins to ride out the storm, and as for the crew, we just busily go about our routine, making sure that nothing falls or is in a position to fall. Once the announcement came over I scurried about the library locking down all the cabinets, putting away all the display books, tucking the signs under the desk, anything that could fall, was taken off what it could fall from. Down in crew quarters, books are being removed from shelves, diffusers are being stored in drawers..

Mother Nature’s rollercoaster, welcome aboard! Please make sure your safety harnesses are secured!

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Parchment Farewells – At Sea – [11/27/2015]

fa8f0df1-a380-485f-9390-a72b40169f5bMe and books, once I acquire them I find it difficult to set them back into the world and let them be adopted by someone else. Over the course of every contract I acquire dozens of books. They fill up my desk cubbyholes and take up residence on the shelves of the cabin, I even have book ends at ‘home’ for specifically that reason. I never end up reading them all. And at the end of every contract I have to do what I dislike the most – I have to give them back.

It’s less difficult if I do it quickly, like taking off a band-aid. Write down the names and authors of the ones I didn’t have time to delve into, and put them carefully into the book orphanage that lives next to my desk. I just don’t have enough room in my suitcase to take them all home with me. Not when there are over a dozen of them.

And that’s just what I haven’t read. My list of ‘finished’ or ‘almost finished’ is above 20.

It’s been an interesting contract.

But it’s amazing how difficult it was to go through them all and figure out which ones were going home with me (three in total I think), and which one was being set aside for the plane (a guest gave me Ginger Rogers’ biography, I suspect that’s a given for the flight home), and which are heading back to the orphanage to be taken on other planes to other places.

If I ever do move into a place of my own, there is apparently no question that I have to have room for an awful lot of book shelves!

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Pack-Down – At Sea – [11/27/2015]

600-00954701 © Masterfile Model Release: Yes Property Release: No Model Release Woman Trying to Close SuitcaseWhy didn’t you bring a map?

There wasn’t room next to the jam!

~ The Chronicles of Narnia

There comes a time in every contract when the inevitable beast must be faced. The room you have carefully constructed to feel like home has to be ripped down, folded up and packed into a suitcase, an oversized duffle bag, and a carry on suitcase.

I must get a new carry on suitcase, but that’s an expense that has to wait for a while yet. Maybe next contract.

6 months’ worth of formals, day wear and uniforms all coming off their hangers and folded neatly in place into a spinner case. If shipboard life has taught me anything it’s definitely how to pack.

The person I feel some amount of sorry for in my upcoming packing maelstrom is my ever-suffering, ever-patience roommate Tolly (short for Tolerance, and there is absolutely a reason that she has that name). She and I get along fantastically, and the room has been mostly co-decorated, and we are very proud of it (and often wish that it would get some kind of acknowledgement for general awesomeness during cabin inspection); but the bits and pieces that make up the cabin décor? Are mostly going into my suitcase – the shower curtain, the posters on the walls, the bathmat we use as a throw rug, even the brightly coloured Hawai’I towel and the electric candles (though we rarely turn those on lately), they’ll all get rolled into corners and slide into the bottom of suitcases and come home with me next Saturday…

I feel somewhat badly stripping the room of so much personality. Though I am leaving her the dragon-themed table top fountain, as there is nowhere at all to put it in in my luggage and she likes fantasy stuff as much as I do.

I still have no real idea how I’m going to fit half of a bass guitar in my duffle bag either (don’t ask, it’s a long story) but I’m bound and determined to make it work somehow.

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Cool Down – Puerto Chaucoboco , Chile – [11/25/2015]

SleepingBeautyIn the days before you complete any contract there is always a sudden plethora of things to do. The inventory you started months ago and thought you had plenty of time to finish is suddenly staring at you only three quarters complete, you need to replace your name tag, you have to put the finishing touches on the handover notes that your replacement is probably going to rely on exclusively during her first week or so on board.

And of course you have to pack.

That last one is still a bear, because it’s amazing how much can fit in such a small cabin, and you despair that this time you won’t be able to work the magic necessary to fit it all back into one suitcase and a duffle bag, and you curse yourself for not biting the bullet and picking up that plain grey hard-sided carry on that you saw in the last port but decided was too expensive.

And in the midst of all of this there is still the day-to-day issues, the fire screen door at the end of your hall that won’t stay shut through the night despite multiple polite requests for it to do so, the drills that you still have to go to, the trainings you still have to complete. You still, after all, have a job to do.

Which can be difficult sometimes because all you want is to let your mind run down and get on that plane…which seems both an instant and a life-time away.

But you just keep going, because all of these little things still have to be done, and these people on this particular cruise paid just as much for their vacation as did the guests who boarded months ago when you were still daisy-fresh. Just like a closing night crowd pays the same for their tickets as an opening night one.

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Tuxedo Chill – Port Stanley, Falkland Islands – [11/13/2015]

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAI have only been to Port Stanley once, but it took its place as one of my favourite ports very quickly. Oddly, it isn’t because the town has a great deal to offer, there’s not a lot here except for a vast stretch of windswept waterfront and a few quaint gift shops and a pub; but that’s not the thing I like about it. It feels like home, the water is the same colour (and likely temperature) as the bay across from my house, the sky is the same colour, the same smell is in the air. It resets me that. And then there’s the fact that well, it’s British, so it’s a combination of both of my homes, the temporary and the permanent, in one sleepy little coastal town that is almost impossible to get into.

However, while I love the port because of the air quality and the ready availability of Cornish pasties (mmmm), the island has really got only one main draw: the penguins.

Penguins are everywhere in Port Stanley, in every souvenir shop, in every picture, everywhere. There are even statues of them in the street. This is because they really are everywhere in reality; every species of penguin in existence is found somewhere on the islands.

And I had never seen one.

I’ve even been to Antarctica (although certain people will debate me on that because I have not actually walked on the white continent – is it my fault it’s not allowed anymore??), and I had still never seen a penguin!

Until this afternoon, when I saw hundreds of them.

I finally landed a spot on one of the crew tours; which saw us all loaded into 4×4 land rovers and trundling out through the seemingly endless – and apparently desolate this time of year – island farmlands to one of the many penguin colonies the locals are so proud of (or perhaps they’ve just realized that the birds were there before they were and peaceful coexistence is the best option – may as well be proud of it!).

I have never seen so many birds in one place in my life.

They were nesting, so there was a rope barrier laid out that we were not allowed to cross for fear of disturbing the eggs, but there were hundreds of them, all running and waddling about or protectively huddled over their nests. It baffles me why they nest so far from the water when they have such short legs (and it was an uphill climb to get to the path to the shoreline!), but I assume it’s to protect the young from the seals who would probably look at them as a nice pre-dinner snack.

The windchill factor was brutally cold, so by the time we all loaded back into the land rovers to return to town the warmth was welcome. On the way back we took the opportunity to admire the scenery, but our drive pointed out to be careful exploring it; which was when we noticed the red signs in various fenced off areas : “DANGER: MINES”

They told us that a cow lost a leg to one once…poor thing.

The tender ride had been smooth, the tender ride back to the ship? Not so much. If guests ever wonder why sometimes we don’t make it into the Falklands, the tender ride that’s considered “normal” is more than enough to convince them. Imagine a small rollercoaster and then put it on water; personally I think it’s brilliant, but I’m sure some of the others sharing the tender with me may not have thought so. Since I was sitting in the crew seats next to the door I emerged back to the ship a little damper than anticipated, but hey, a little salt water never hurt me.

Accomplishment unlocked: See penguins.

Bucket list item – checked.

 

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One Brother – At Sea – [11/11/2015]

She_knows_what_freedom_really_means_1942_1_One brother wore blue
One brother wore grey
One brother he went
And the other one stayed
One brother is here
One brother is there
Where shall I go lord and what colours shall I wear?

I’ve seen this day come and go in all weathers, but even with the fog lying on us like a thick white blanket; it still doesn’t feel right that it isn’t raining. It was, as I have said many times, always raining, always mud slicking the shiny patent of my good dress shoes. Always wishing I had boots or gloves.

Back then I cried because it was expected of me, because everyone else was crying, because I knew instinctively that the occasion was sad and serious. I was more interested in being seen in my pretty party shoes than in understanding what was going on, but as I got older I came to understand more than I wished. Except why, I never could understand why.

I still do not understand why. I used to think that I would understand the necessity and the concept of war when I got older, but I still do not. I don’t think I ever will, I think perhaps I do not want to.

And if that makes me a pacifist, perhaps that is my fate.

I will never understand humankind’s apparent need to destroy all of humanity in the desperate drive to lay claim to some kind of pride. Some kind of an illusion, or an invisible line on the map. If you were to fly above the world you would not see any boundaries etched into the earth, but you would see the devastation that fighting for them has caused.

But that’s not what this day is about. I would give so much for the days of mud-slicked ground and carefully carved memorials to be behind us, but that doesn’t mean that I ever forget how lucky I am to have had my freedom fought for and won, very hard won, and I – for one – do not believe that they sleep. That faith has been so long broken I don’t quite see how they could do so. Every bombing, every innocent life taken, disturbs their rest further. They deserve so much more than one day, and yet it seems sometimes that 24 hours is all we see fit to give them, and even that is not what it once was.

The guns are no longer silent and if we are honest with ourselves it has been many many years since they ever were. There are countries where larks no longer fly at all, let alone have their song heard amongst the blasts under their wings.

And I still remain that little girl, clutching her grandmother’s hand in her black patent party shoes, and later on in a girl guides’ dress blues, wondering …why?

Because the ones who call the shots
Won’t be among the dead and lame
And at each and of the rifle..
We’re the same…

 

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Jungle Girl – Puerto Chiapias, Mexico – [10/12/2015]

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Temple of the Great Jaguar

There are times when the job throws an opportunity at you that you can’t resist- that you would be an utter fool to resist. Yesterday evening I walked up to Amras after the set with the biggest smile on my face

So, it would seem that I have some sudden uber-cool plans tomorrow

Oooh did you get something good?

More like something awesome.

And I had him the many-times folded flyer I had printed off from my email just a half hour before, detailing the tour to Tikal. The tour crew never ever gets because you have to fly and it takes all day and it’s just one of those ones that’s unacknowledged ‘guests only’ the only people who ever get to escort those tours are actual tour department staff. For some reason – which I still don’t know – they opened up four slots for crew, just four, and at a very reasonable rate.

You’re kidding me!

No! I snagged the last slot! They had four, and I got the last one!

I’m SO jealous! Wait, is that the one where you have to fly? The one I was talking about?

Yup.

So you’re getting on a plane tomorrow

Yup.

Awesome! Oh my god I am so jealous!

And, he had every right to be.

There are few tours where I can’t find the words, this is one of them.

For one thing, I wasn’t even supposed to have it. Crew simply does not get these kinds of tours, anything more than a bus trip and it automatically goes to shore excursions staff. And this morning I was up at 4:45am to board a plane.

Yes, a plane.

A plane that took me over the lush jungles of Guatmala and deep into their depths to the site of one of the most breathtaking Mayan ruins of all time.

Tikal, I actually got to see Tikal.

I had seen the Temple of the Great Jaguar only in slides, during a long ago Mesoamerican Art History class. I was fascinated by it, and always wished the university offered more courses on it, I even considered going back to audit the class one year but found it more complicated an option than I expect.

It was a small plane that took us there, so small that it couldn’t even fit two seats on either side of the aisle, instead there were two seats on one side and a single on the other. Oddly enough, I found myself less frightened in such a small plane than I am in the cabin of a 747. Strange how these things work. It was impossible to sleep over the roar of the propellers (although I’m sure a few of us dropped off a little it was, after all, very early!) – so most of the time was spent staring out at the Guatamala jungle spread out below us like a many folded quilt. It looked like a giant child had dropped a favourite green blanket on the ground, leaving it in folds and shadows under the bright early morning sky. After a landing that felt like were skidding across the hot tarmac, we found ourselves in a mini-bus trundling through the outskirts of the city. Most of us drowsing while trying to look at the jungle because we had started so early in the morning.

Our bus drove us right up to the back of the main temple, a privilege that few people get – most have to walk the long hike from the parking area to the site proper. One of the benefits of being on a tour instead of going on your own. As soon as we got out of the bus the humid jungle air pressed down on either side of us, most of us at that point reached for our water bottles. Then you just stared up, even from behind the Temple of the Great Jaguar is highly impressive. Also, we weren’t due to see it from the front just yet. Instead we hiked around the back and ended up in what had once been the royal residence, now reduced to nothing but towering foundations and remnants of rooms (rooms with no windows, which is very unusual indeed). As I was standing there looking at these remains of what was once a hugely powerful civilization, I realized what I was standing in.

This is one of the only sacred ball courts discovered on this site, it’s very small in scale so it may have been symbolic.

We were standing in the ball court. What little I studied about Mesoamerican history came tumbling back to me, ball courts were not just sacred, they were often used in ritualistic sacrifice. While not as prolific as Hollywood would have most of us believe, it did happen, and it would have been an important part of life. All I know is that that ball court felt very strange, not quite dizzying, but far from steady either. I wanted to put it down to the heat, but I couldn’t really.

It’s a surreal feeling, trodding on stones that have been worn smooth by literally centuries of footfalls. It’s only comparatively recently that these ruins have been opened up, for years they were swallowed whole by the jungle, choked with vines and greenery and animal dens, many of the temples still appear as nothing but hills.

Once we emerged from the ruins into the remains of the main plaza, the Temple of the Jaguar and the Queen’s Temple reared up in front of us, providing the kind of vista you only see once in a lifetime, and then only if you’re very very lucky. The feel of the place was incredible, and when you climbed the rickety stairs to the top of the Queen’s Temple the entire jungle stretched out at your feet like something out of a fairy tale. The ruins were the only piece of civilization you could see for miles, and this was not even the tallest temple on the site, that would come later.

For the next few hours we trekked through the jungle on the dirt roads the park vehicles use to get from site to site. Every so often the guide would pause and point to what at first looked like nothing but a hillock and ask us if we could see what it was, and lo it would transform itself into the jungle-choked remains of a building, what kind of building is impossible to tell, but a building none the less. Around us the jungle buzzed with life, at one point a horrifically loud roaring rattled our ears and we were convinced that we were about to be devoured by a jaguar (who are, after all, native to the area), but were reassured by the guide that it was nothing more than a howler monkey – whose abnormally loud call sounds distressingly like a predator. I’m pretty sure most of us still believed it was a jaguar.

Our ultimate destination was Temple 4 – the tallest temple on the site, in fact the tallest building on the site at all. It’s only been partially restored; the bottom of half of it is still covered in archeological tarps and the remains of jungle fauna. It is a long climb to the top, and I was awfully tired, but I kept hearing Amras’ voice in my head

You’re going to climb it right?

Duh! Try and stop me!

So I did. Thankfully it was switch back stairs, which made it a lot easier. Upon reaching the top, it was all worth it. This is the kind of view you only see in text books and postcards. Nothing but green as far as you can see with the tops of the other temples sticking out of the canopy like broken teeth or fragmented tips of a long lost crown. Who else must have stood here, what must they have thought, what are they thinking now. Because this place, and so many others like it, is still so very much alive – and not simply because there are living breathing people wending their way through and around it every day; there is something in the stones itself that lives. Something kept alive by the sun and the jungle; not in a malicious sense, but in a very real one.

There were only four slots on this tour that opened up for crew, and we – nicknaming ourselves ‘the lucky ones’ grouped together for photos and general ‘can you believe this? I mean really can you believe this?”

The answer being , no, no you really couldn’t.

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Oh My daughters, oh my son… – Buenos Aires, Argentina – [11-09-2015]

You were supposeEvad to have been immortal
That’s all they wanted
Not much to ask
for
 But in the end you could not deliver

~*~*
The choice was mine and mine completely
I could have any prize th
at I desired
I could burn with the fury of the brightest star
Or else, or else I could choose time
But remember, I was very young then
And a year was forever and a day
So what use could fifty, sixty, seventy be?
I saw the lights and I was on my way
And how I lived, and how they shone
But how soon the lights were gone…

She wasn’t a saint.

They call her one; Santa Evita. But she wasn’t, scratch the surface of the glamour and Eva Peron was a woman who clawed, scraped and slept her way to the top. She did a lot of good, but she was far from selfless.

Yet, standing in front of her grave in the endless Recolleta Cemetery , where she is buried in not the Peron but the Duarte family tomb, there are still fresh flowers laced into the grates of the doors. Argentina still mourns its Eva, even though she is so long gone now that she is little more than a legend.

We hadn’t intended to end up in Recolleta, but I wasn’t sorry that we had done so. One of the friends I was with had never been, and although Tolly and I had both been (her as recently as two days ago), it’s a place that you can find yourself lost in and not see what you did the first time. It’s very peaceful – this city of the dead – almost lullingly so. Eerily so. Tolly mentioned that it made her wonder if this was what Pompeii had been like before the disaster; only in these streets the residents do no roam, at least not in the conventional sense.

Evita is far from the only resident in this silent city; though her resting place is the most visited. Some, sadly, are no longer visited at all. Many of the tombs belong to families who descendants are long forgotten, looking through half-open locked grates one can see the entrancingly chilling sight of elegant decay. In one instance the stain glass roof had crashed to the ground, lying in pieces amongst the toppled masonry, the coffin itself sheltered and untouched in its niche as the ferns and flowers fought their way up through the cracks beneath it. There was something hypnotizing about it, Tolly almost had to pull me away.

Whose life was that? Whose child, whose parent?

It is not Evita’s grave that interests me here, it’s all the others that are swallowed up by her shadow. All the others time has forgotten.

The cats were gone, that was the one thing I noticed. There used to be cats roaming the cemetery everywhere, lazing in the shadow of long dead generals and patrolling the perimeter of Evita’s neighbours; but I didn’t see one today. Although Tolly said she spotted cat food near one of the benches.

Buenos Aires itself is a city I had not thought I would set foot in again. I was lucky enough to visit on one of the world cruises quite some time ago, one of my very first. Then, I went out alone, somehow more confident than I am now. So it was a different experience to explore Recolleta with someone else. We had started out with four people, but two of us turned a corner and vanished from the sight of the others before they even realized we’d gone; we eventually met up at a café and drank fresh juice and nibbled on warm croissants. There are worse ways to spend a day.

We’ve actually been in Buenos Aires three days, but the first day was Amras’ and my last day in port together, most of which was spent tracking down a desperately needed suitcase (but which also included breakfast at a lovely little corner café so I can’t complain), and he debarked the second day; which left me with today – and I wasn’t going to go out at all, but as it turned out I did need a little peace and quiet.

The puzzle that is the City of the Dead proved to be exceptionally good at providing that.

Even if it does give us a stark reminder that we are – none of us – immortal.

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Blanket Forts – At Sea – [11/04/2015]

we_travel_without_seatbelts_on_by_plain_x_jayne-d4rlebeThere are so many days that I wish I was still at the age when I could build a blanket fort and think myself safe from the world. It seems sometimes that we are all in such a hurry to grow up that we completely miss the exceptional blessing that is being a child…when we are allowed to cry when we’re in pain, and sleep when we’re exhausted.
Those should be basic human rights, but they’re not, not really. Not all the time. How often does anyone really say what’s on their minds and mean it? How many times do we play the doormat for people because we don’t want to offend, or take our anger out on others without thought that they too have feelings.
I work with technology; cold, hard, emotionless numbers and circuits. I know where I stand with it but it didn’t start out that way. I started out as a girl with a suitcase full of books wanting to see the world beyond her blanket fort. I still am that, most of the time.
Except when I’m not.
Except when the work gets too hard and the people too harsh and somehow I lose sight of that little girl with the suitcase. I can usually find her again, but it’s taking longer and longer each time these days. Sometimes I worry that she’s disappeared into her fort for good and I may never get her to come out again. Perhaps that’s a good thing; perhaps she’s safer there after all. I wish I could join her much of the time.
There were so many things I wanted to do when I got too old for blankets and couch cushions. I wanted to start a nightclub, I wanted to be a marine biologist, I wanted to make some kind of difference in the world.
Now, all I want most of the time is to crawl back into the world that little girl used to build under a tree on the beach and not come out for a good long time.

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