{"id":5574,"date":"2019-12-22T17:13:22","date_gmt":"2019-12-23T01:13:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bloodinyoursaltwater.com\/?p=5574"},"modified":"2019-12-22T17:13:22","modified_gmt":"2019-12-23T01:13:22","slug":"always-a-band-victoria-bc-12-22-2019","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bloodinyoursaltwater.com\/?p=5574","title":{"rendered":"Always A Band \u2013 Victoria, BC \u2013 [12\/22\/2019]"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"\u201cThat\u2019s why I wanted you in the band, so you\u2019d stop mopin\u2019 around and feelin\u2019 sorry for yourself\u201d<\/p>\n

<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cWhat band?\u201d<\/p>\n

<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cI always think there\u2019s a band, kid\u201d<\/em>
\n~ The Music Man<\/em><\/p>\n

As some of you know few years ago my father\u2019s dance orchestra folded. I wasn\u2019t there when it happened, I don\u2019t know the ins and outs of why<\/em> it happened. I know that it wasn\u2019t anticipated, and I know that my family was\u2026broken up\u2026about it. That\u2019s putting it mildly. Since I was just over the age of 10 the band a constant presence in my life\u2026they were not just a \u2018hobby band\u2019, they were our extended family. This was not just something that my father did on weekends, this was a crucial living part of who we were<\/em>.<\/p>\n

When the band folded, we lost a lot of that. There are a few that stayed around (Amras and I were really<\/em> lucky to have three of them play our wedding), but most of them just\u2026drifted away. There were a lot of burned bridges over that situation.<\/p>\n

I haven\u2019t given it a great deal of thought in the four years since it happened. Some things sting too much to think about too often. But then something sometimes happens to bring everything back.<\/p>\n

This afternoon my folks took Amras and I to the local Jazz club (the oldest jazz club in Canada), to see an old friend of my Dad\u2019s that was playing there. Now, I haven\u2019t seen Clark in almost a decade for one thing, I was shocked even remembered me; but I haven\u2019t heard this particular group (a quartet that often flexes to a quintet or shrinks to a trio that\u2019s super well known in the trad-jazz circuits), since before my Dad\u2019s band splintered; I was not entirely prepared for the amount of flashbacks that ended up being involved. There is a lot of cross over between the two sets of charts \u2013 different arrangements of course \u2013 but still the same songs, some of which were borrowed directly from the Broadcaster\u2019s chart book.<\/p>\n

There were times this afternoon when my Mum and I were crying, and had you pressed us to explain why, we probably wouldn\u2019t have been able to.<\/p>\n

The truth of it is? I miss my family. I grew up with eleven or so aunts and uncles, who were at every holiday, every occasion\u2026they were just\u2026always there. And then, suddenly, they\u2026weren\u2019t. Almost eleven people who just disappeared out of my life without a word, and I didn\u2019t get to say goodbye.<\/p>\n

And all of that is somehow tied up in novelty dance tunes and cold bar food in a place with brick walls and a too small dance floor that I thought\u2026I would never set foot in again.<\/p>\n

Sometimes memory lane catches you on a sideswipe\u2026<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201cThat\u2019s why I wanted you in the band, so you\u2019d stop mopin\u2019 around and feelin\u2019 sorry for yourself\u201d \u201cWhat band?\u201d \u201cI always think there\u2019s a band, kid\u201d ~ The Music Man As some of you know few years ago my … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[4,106,21],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5574","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-below-the-waterline","category-sadie","category-vacation"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p3GtNE-1rU","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bloodinyoursaltwater.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5574","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bloodinyoursaltwater.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bloodinyoursaltwater.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bloodinyoursaltwater.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bloodinyoursaltwater.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=5574"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/bloodinyoursaltwater.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5574\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5575,"href":"https:\/\/bloodinyoursaltwater.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5574\/revisions\/5575"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bloodinyoursaltwater.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=5574"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bloodinyoursaltwater.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=5574"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bloodinyoursaltwater.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=5574"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}