We settle down as man and wife
To solve the riddle called Married Life…
So here’s the deal: I just got married.
So I’m a little busy. While I’m not…exactly…off grid (I mean, I check my email, I randomly post wedding photos on facebook etc…obviously) I’m..pretty much off grid. The phones are on silent, and I’m pretty much not answering them. For anyone.
Amras and I have a very limited amount of time together before I have to jet off to Alaska until September. And there are things to do, and new ways of living and communicating to get used to and perhaps it’s selfish, perhaps it’s not, but I really don’t want to give up a single day of that time, I actually don’t want to give up a single moment of that time. So I’m being selfish. We are being selfish.
Amras and I have been friends for years, we’ve been “together” for several years too (though not as many as we’ve been friends) but this is the first time we’ve been married. And that, that takes a lot of getting used to, and also – for me at least at the moment – that really takes priority over pretty much everything else. There are new ways of looking at each other to adjust to, heck new nouns – like ‘husband’ and ‘wife’ to get used to using, for me there’s even a whole new name. And we only get this first little bit of time once, no matter what comes after, we only get this first magical piece of time once.
The days I am not working (which are few) we are spending cooking, and curled up in front of the tv watching weird British Sci-Fi and listening to the “cold Canadian wind” batter against our windows. We are taking an absurd amount of joy in the fact that we *have* windows for that wind to batter against!
And yet people keep asking me if I’m okay…
Here is my answer to that: YES. Yes I am absolutely fine. There are moments where things are a little bit awkward, and moments when finding myself – rather suddenly it feels like – thrust into the role of being a full blown adult (yes, yes I know chronologically I’ve been an adult for quite some time now, hopefully you all know what I mean)…but I am…definitely just fine. I’m here. I’m okay, I’m more than okay, and yes – whoever you are, wherever you are – I still love you.
But I’m a little preoccupied just now. So please, just now, just for this next little while, don’t ask me to make plans – and if you do, please don’t be offended if I end up backing out, or hedging on an answer. It’s not personal, I will be back. You know me, I will always be back.
But for now, for now the phones are off the hook…leave a message…and we’ll call you back later.