In the Interests of Sleepless Humanity – [11/11/2019]

Credit to: atlanta hot shots

If yea break faith with us who die
We shall not sleep
Though poppies blow in Flanders Fields

Or

That the ones who call the shots
Won’t be among the dead and lame
And at each end of the rifle…
We’re the same… ~ Christmas in the Trenches

Or

When you’ve lived through two wars and a Depression, everything else is easy ~ Maude Renwick

There are so so many things that I could say, that I find I have ironically…had to struggle to find the words…

It still never feels right that it’s not raining. I have been in warm climates for Armistice Day every year for…a long time now…and it never feels right. Cabo is out there, partying and drinking like it always does…and I would give anything to be home, in the cold and the rain…

Oddly, of all the important days of the year, this one makes me the most horribly homesick…mostly homesick for people who aren’t here anymore.

There are so many things I should have asked…those years that I stood in my little girl party shoes in the mud…and I didn’t…and while nothing can change that, I still think about it every year. This day isn’t just about the symbols for me, it’s about…people who could have maybe explained it all to me, if I had only just thought to ask…

But there is one thing that as the years go on, I am more and more sure of…

They don’t sleep. I know that now. Know it bone deep, as surely as I know my own name. They don’t sleep.

I wonder now if they ever will.

I had hoped you see, that I would live to see the time when this day was really just a day of Remembrance for the lost long ago.

But I worry now that I won’t see that…not now. I think that we have lost the ability for peace, and as such, this day will stand as it has for years: an acknowledgement that there is always a war. An acknowledgement that the torch has been forever passed and forever dropped, and so they don’t rest…because they can’t. Because we failed and we keep failing.

And I still don’t understand…

And every layer of that makes me terribly sad…and if I’m honest with myself, terribly, terribly angry…because dammit, why don’t we GET it. When are we going to figure out that war solves absolutely nothing. War does nothing but generate more of itself. It feeds on itself until there is nothing left except anger and sorrow and a deeply misplaced sense of warped pride.

I’ve tried to be a lark over the guns for so many years that my voice has gone hoarse, I don’t know how much more song I have left in me.

But I do still have a voice, and as long as that is still true, I will still keep saying “this has to change, this has to stop”…I will still try to make people understand. Perhaps in my own quiet way that doesn’t rattle around the world, but maybe one day I might make a difference to just one person…and maybe that will have to be enough.

If only for the sake of the next group of little girls standing ankle deep in the mud…if only so that one day they might be able to see a day where there really is peace…if only so that they might one day understand what we never could…

If only so that one day…the long dead can truly sleep…

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Reset – San Diego – [11/02/2019]

There’s booze everywhere
Jazz everywhere
life everywhere
Joy everywhere..
But nothin’ stays…
~ Chicago

And just like that…playtime’s over.

The speed at which the ship can reset absolutely amazes me. Last night ,right up until probably 2 in the morning, there were still massive sound stages set up in every venue on the ship, including a huge festival stage on the back deck. The back deck pools were covered over to become dancefloors and table areas, and there were crates of high-end gear everywhere. The ship had sprouted at least three super-high end sound boards that put our normal ones to shame.

There were people everywhere, wandering around in costume every night of the week, hanging out with strangers who became friends, eating breakfast at 2:30pm, and ice cream at 1 in the morning…and music everywhere and everyone on board had just the one goal: to listen to the music and have fun.

And us? Well, we were just hanging out, enjoying the atmosphere…focused on nothing more than making sure that we washed the cat-whiskers off after Halloween and making sure that we showed up on time for our volunteer shifts.

This morning? You would never know any of that had even existed. There is not a sign, not a breath of it anywhere.

Back we go to the structure, to the house rules and to the day to day. My workshop key is once again clipped onto my key ring, and the guests I pass in the hallway on the way too and from my cabin are just…not the same vibe.

Obviously the guests from the charter will never read the blog, but I wish I could have given all of them a message: I wish I could have told them to give everyone else lessons on how to just…live.

 

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Charter Wrap-Up – At Sea – [11/01/2019]

Well sadly all good things must come to an end.

For the last 7 days, this ship has been a non-stop festival! Music everywhere (though I didn’t see as many of the shows as I intended, it seems that my crowd-induced panic decided to pick this week to kick into full steam)…smiling faces and crazy resteraunt hours (breakfast being served at 2 in the afternoon? On ship? Huh?)…

And for me it’s been an entire week with no responsibilities, no uniform, and no expectations. In all honesty, this may be the first thing even close to a vacation that I’ve had in a while. I’ve spent the last seven days sleeping in, finishing books, taking pictures and working on that new cross-stitch project. Oh, and arguing with those Ghost Hunter shows that are constantly on the travel channel (I mean really! You go into a known haunted space, unprotected, without even a piece of hematite? And then you *start* a ritual but don’t finish it and wonder why things go really wrong…seriously?…ahem I digress).

Tomorrow we dock in San Diego and this crazy dream of a charter will be over, they’ll had me back the keys to my classroom and everything will reset…

And I’m kind of sad about that, because there’s so much I didn’t get a chance to see, so many cool people I didn’t get a chance to meet…

For the first time ever? I don’t want these guests to leave!

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Awe-full – Blue Cruise Day 2 – Cab San Lucas, Mexico – [10/29/2019]

Sometimes the best days ever are the ones when you have no idea what’s going to happen. I left the ship this morning with time on my hands and exactly ten dollars (okay 12) in my pocket, I did not think I’d be doing much of anything except maybe buying a soft drink. I had a vague notion of looking at shoreside tours but the water taxi operators are you get off the ship are super aggressive and I always find myself loathe to reward what feels like harassment (if I want a tour I will go find one, chasing me down the pier and insulting me when I tell you to leave me alone will not make me buy from you).

So I wandered through the pier in the estimated direction to downtown and just as I’m leaving the marina there is one more tour place. Not pushy, the people are nice and the cost of a water taxi tour out to the arch? $10! For over an hour.

I’ve called in Cabo many times and I’ve only ever seen the rock formations from a distance. Up close? It’s hard to describe how beautiful they really are. The arch is stunning, but it’s the immensity of the formations surrounding it that make it breathtaking. You feel as though you are the absolutely smallest thing in the universe, just a little tiny spec. As the little girl who once squealed with joy to ride the wake of a ferry in a tiny metal motorboat (man were my parents mad), this is my version of paradise. Salt water? Fixes practically anything. The boat is small and the swells from the Pacific are massive, rolling in more like small walls than waves.

The boat was glass bottom, so we could see schools if thousands of multi-coloured fish dashing about under the hull. I think Nemo was in there somewhere.

When we reached the beach those of us too short to climb out of the boat and into the swells ourselves were basically bridal carried from the boat to the shore, which definitely made me giggle. But it’s easy to see why there are locals there working for tips by carrying people off the boats – the undertow is so strong and the waves so huge that if you try and get yourself out and you’re on the smaller side? You’re getting swept off your feet, no questions asked.

I’m not built for the Mexican heat so after about a half hour of hiking around taking pictures of all the caves and cliffs (which seem to stretch up forever) I found myself a spot in the shade to people watch until the boat came to pick us back up. If I ever do this again, I will have to be a little more prepared and bring myself an umbrella and beach towel! And a book, most definitely a book.

We had a bit of an adventure getting back to the marina, because the boat that had dropped us off didn’t come back at the appointed time to pick us back up! Thankfully, the people who I had shared the boat with happened to also be guests on our charter and the guests this week? They are super nice, so they paid to get us all back to shore safely. They are also refusing to let me pay them back, and trust me I’ve tried!

All in all, there are certainly worse ways to spend a day than being out in the sunshine and completely awed by just how big nature really is.

 

 

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Whispered – All Hallows Eve – At Sea – [10/31/2019]

Can you hear them? No, of course not. You never can. You never could. And these days? These days neither can I. Like cotton wool jammed in my ears, like white noise overload…the ‘real’ world blotting out the Other, muffling them…pushing them to the edges of awareness.

But silent does not mean gone. Silent does not mean vanished. Silent does not mean forever. Silence, does not last forever.

Where I am here, they are lost amongst the tossing waves, but only sometimes.

Sometimes I still catch a whisper, a whisper from amongst the white water…

“Come to us, fall to us, come play with us, we promise…your mother won’t even know you’ve gone.”

Whispers of things better, whispers of times past. Motion at the corners of my vision, voices at the edges of my hearing, meaning at the edges of speech…

I’m not crazy. I’ve never been crazy. My eyes are just open. Open and aware. And I know my history, I know my legends, and I know what they sound like. And I am not alone. You all look at us like we’re crazy, you see our nervous eyes and our quick step and the way we look over our shoulders at things you cannot see, and you pull your gaze away from us. The better not to think about it.

If you knew what we knew, if you could hear through the silence…you would not be so quick to dismiss us, or judge us so easily.

But, as with every year, you can’t hear them, and so pay us no heed, those of us who close ourselves in and turn up our movies and hide away from your grinning jack o’lanterns and sugar overdoses. Who watch from our windows as you guide your small fairies and hobgoblins through a night they do not understand…

We have never been crazy…but we can hear them…

Happy Halloween.

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I Guess That’s Why They Call It – Blues Cruise, Day 1 – At Sea – [10/27/2019]

It has been a long long time since I worked a charter. And I’ve never worked a charter quite like this one. I knew my duties were going to be light, but I honestly wasn’t anticipating a full blown vacation. Well, I’m volunteering for a few things here and there, but for the most part? Not doing a thing. The most “useful” thing I’ve done so far is put together next cruise’s schedule while I was sitting at the silent auction desk earlier today.

Not only that, but the people running the charter, want those of us who are volunteering to blend in! So we’re not even wearing uniforms!

This is also a somewhat unusual group of people. For one thing, they are the most enthusiastic group I’ve encounter in a really long time. And it’s super refreshing to see an entire ship full of people who have seemingly completely put aside everything from petty disagreements to politics just for a week of having a good time. These people are here for the music, and to eat drink and be merry, plain and simple. And these days that is a pretty rare and awesome thing to see.

Emotionally, that positivity is definitely doing me good. I’m a little bit intimidated by the crowds, and the fact that these guys apparently start drinking at 9am! (seriously, these guys are serious about their party mode!) does scare me just a little bit…but the over all energy onboard is excellent, and while the guests are perhaps a little louder and more…boisterous than usual, they’re not…the bad kind of boisterous, everyone here just wants everyone else to have a good time…and that is something that everyone in the world right now needs a bit more of…

 

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When Your Worth Is Measured By…. – San Diego – [10/27/2019]

Every day’s a struggle when you’re living down below
When your worth is measured by whether or not you’ve got a window!
~ Cruise Ship Life Rap (courtesy of the Dawn Princess)

Before anyone can really understand the strange significance of what I’m about to report – you have to understand just how rare it is to have natural light below the passenger decks. Natural light onboard to a crew member? Golden, and rare as a unicorn (or chocolate chip mint ice cream at the ice cream station…scratch that, you have a far better chance at the ice cream station).

Keeping that in mind…

I was sitting with my supervisor at dinner last night (my supervisor is brilliant), and she happened to ask me what kind of cabin I was in this contract. Now, my position lost our “good” cabin on this class of ship about half a year ago or so when they rolled in a bunch of new entertainment programs. We bumped down from a fair-sized double-bed cabin to the same size of bunk bed cabin I used to have in my librarian days. Still private thankfully, but certainly not what we had been lucky enough to have before.

So the conversation went something like this:

Me: Oh, I’m in a bunk cabin. We lost our good cabin on the big ships when they did the cabin shuffle to bring in the new bands.

PM: y’know I think I have a double-bed cabin spare until December because we don’t get the new group until then. Come by the office later and I’ll get you set up.

At this point I just think “sweet! Better room! Bigger bed! Yay!” and somewhere in the very back of my mind there was a vague tickling of “maybe…yeah, dream on…that’ll never happen…”

I pop down to the crew office and collect my new key and check out the new digs, with the plan of moving the next day as it was already late. And then I open up the door to the new room and there, glowing with light real moonlight….is a porthole.

I have a porthole room.

I have a window!!!!

This is a temporary thing, and will likely not be something that will happen ever again after the end of this contract. Even as it stands I might only have the room until the end of November, after that it depends on whether or not the new group coming on has more than five members (if they don’t, I can stay).

But real, true, natural light…I can see the outside world…

This is definitely one of those things that you likely will never understand unless you have lived below decks…that quote about “your worth is measured by if you have a window”? that’s not a joke…this is a “little” thing that isn’t at all that little..

Excuse me, I have to go and stare at the ocean now…

You know…from my window!

 

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Chartered – At Sea – [10/25/2019]

This coming cruise will be a new experience for me. Well, perhaps not completely new but new in the context of being a workshop host.

This coming turn around port we start a full ship charter. In this case it’s the Blues Cruise. The thing is, the bring in all their own artists, their own everything, and they won’t be needing my classes. So the workshop gets closed down for a week and I go volunteer for helping with autograph signings and greeting people at the doors for their events. A few hours a day, certainly nothing too difficult.

I almost feel guilty, as other parts of the ship: the culinary department, beverage, the stage techs, they’ll be working extremely hard and very different hours.

But me? I handed over the keys to the workshop to my boss this evening, she will hand them to the people running the charter tomorrow morning, and I just…glide for the rest of the week.

The last time I was on a charter cruise was…I think at least 5 years ago, when I was still working as a librarian on the big ships in Alaska in between world cruises. The most entertaining one stands as the Twilight Charter where they did all their events at night and walked around in red contact lenses during the day…that one was definitely…odd.

But this one though? This stands to be a super easy week, with a light schedule and no major commitments, and at least one day completely off – I wonder if anyone has any idea how rare that is out here!

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Altered Routines – Puerto Vallarta – [10/23/2019]

I am slowly but surely adjusting to the fact that I am on a much bigger vessel than usual! You see, the flagship – and the class (that is to say size) of ship she belongs to – is relatively small, though in industry terms she’s considered “mid-size”, holding somewhere around 1400 guests plus the necessary crew.

The ship on I’m now? Well she’s still considered “mid-size” if you compare her to something like…the 6,000 passenger ships that some other companies run. But for us? She’s one of our second biggest ships in the fleet.

It’s been a long long time since I was on this class of vessel, well, a long time in ship time. The last time I was on a ship of this size was in 2013, which is an eternity ago in ship years. The length of time away means that I had to get an employee orientation when I arrived, and also means that – while my feet are slowly finding their way – I am still spending large portions of my day either getting lost or completely underestimating the time it takes to get from point A to point B! I’m used to living one deck up from my office, and a five minute walk away from everything I need to get to. Here? I live down on A-deck, and my deck 2 office is at the other end of the vessel. Let’s just say that’s definitely thrown my morning timing off!

But my boss is brilliant and the rest of the team seems nice enough (though much smaller than I’m used to!) and while my cabin is tiny I’ve at least made it homey.

And hey, I’m not getting lost as much as I was a few days ago!

 

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Thanksgiving Wrap Up – Vancouver – [10/14/2019]

I am most pleased to say that Thanksgiving Dinner was a tremendous success. And that fun was had by all, and that the first holiday between Amras and I has come and gone with barely a ripple of discontent. We did it! And I actually have to say we had a blast doing it, a few little bumps while we figured out each others traditions and how they blend (“you make cranberry sauce from scratch?” “You put marshmallows on your yams??”) and a few forgotten ingredients (“damn, are you going to the store? Could you pick up whip cream?” “hold on, I have to go and collect some acorns for the centerpiece”)

We even made a proper jack-o-lantern which is – as far as I know – still burning merrily on our coffee table. Messy, slimey, but a lot of fun to make all around. A tradition I lost a long time ago, that I’m glad to pick up again.

And my pumpkin pie (er, not made from a fresh pumpkin I’m afraid)? Turned out so well that even my Mum says that she thought it was excellent. And for me? That is the ultimate compliment. I will most definitely be keeping that recipe for future occasions!

The days following thanksgiving were spent mostly curled up on the chesterfield eating leftovers and watching Netflix, playing Words with Friends, and tackling at least one “mystery” puzzle (which we still haven’t finished and may yet give up on) and ferrying me back and forth to my various day shifts.

In short: normal, for a few short weeks I truly enjoyed our odd little version of normal.

I only had one shift at Ghostly Walks just before I left, one Halloween tour – for which I went through training shifts and actually went so far as to write crib notes! But I did manage to do a fairly good job of it (and there was a golden retriever with my group! Double bonus! Though the poor puppy was a bit unsettled by our offices.) As for my other job, well, the store will trip along very nicely without me I’m sure, but I will miss them while I’m away. I may not always love working retail, but in a lot of ways it’s very comforting, I’ve been with the store for over 15 years on and off at this point, and we’ve become something of an odd little family there. It’s nice to know I have somewhere to come back to that will understand the craziness that is my life just at the moment…

Speaking of that craziness, and the reams of red tape, I’m not sure how much I want to go into here, but there has been definite progress for the better. Which is, needless to say, a big weight off of a lot of shoulders.

And all of that is behind me for a bit as now it’s off I go into the big great blue again. Only a short run this time, two months in Mexico and then – thankfully – home for Christmas.

And I can’t say, how much it means to me that I have people – a person – to come home to for the holidays.

 

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